Karen is the stigma, not of the woman, or even the white woman but the wrong voting white woman. Burdening the term “karen” with distasteful connotations, makes her not just the person nobody wants to be, but a target of legitimate harassment and violence.

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If we can’t agree on the language we use in a debate, it becomes what my Chinese bookkeeper use to call a “chicken and duck conversation”. We are currently having a “chicken and duck conversation” about race in our society.  We think we are talking about race, but the mainstreaming of a radical form of…

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I have been reading Ruby Hamad’s theories that white women are complicit it in colonisation[i].  It didn’t bother me at first because what is colonisation but living in a colony and making a life and sure, white women did that. The title of the article was “White women were colonisers too. To move forward, we…

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In the great gender debate, it is probably unquestionable that women are better communicators, more compassionate and are generally more empathetic. The very existence of Oprah and her massive success and wealth testifies to this.  She is a woman that has built an empire on listening to people, really hearing their story. By doing so…

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So I’ve been spending some time listening to YouTubers talk about gender. I spent an hour last night listening to a video posted by Blair White, a popular conservative transgender YouTuber.  In the video, she debated with a person who identified as ‘gender queer’ who calls themself ‘Contrapoints’. [1]  Seeing these twenty something kids debating…

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Lately, I have been feeling a bit like we have a sexual politics version of ‘McCarthyism’ emerging in our culture.  McCarthyism is named after U.S Senator Joseph McCarthy, and his post war campaign to weed out communists from positions of influence, the entertainment industry and business. McCarthyism is also used “more generally to describe reckless,…

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Earlier on this evening I was getting the feeling that this country despises me and those I worship with. I started writing a sensitive article about how deeply wounded I was, but then I just got grumpy again. My new sensitive self, started to emerge this week with Israel Folau coming out in favour of…

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I am by nature grumpy and that has been well established. Before I went for my walk today my husband told me something in relation to the postal survey debate, that made me so angry, I thought my head would explode, and it involves Hummus. No, that is not a typo, no one called anyone…

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Pagan Streams, Van Morrison. And we walked the pagan streams and searched for white horses on surrounding hills. We lived where dusk had meaning, and repaired to quiet sleep, where noise abated. In touch with the silence, on Honey Street, on Honey Street. What happened to a sense of wonder, On yonder hillside, getting dim.…

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Kevin was a hero figure in a childhood with very few character models of any kind.  In a bogan populated public housing estate, he instilled in me a sense that somehow it wasn’t us that was wrong it was always them. In a family where all of our parents managed to stuff up the basic…

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